But what the hell is even a “Twin Flame” and how come I’ve never even heard of it before?
These were my first thoughts when I stumbled upon the first twin flame video on TikTok, roughly two years ago. Because I definitely never even heard of this term. Maybe in a few songs, or movies I’ve watched, but the term itself never stuck with me for some reason.
So, what are “twin flames”, and why are we even talking about them?
The concept of twin flames can be traced back to ancient philosophies, mostly Greek, Hindu, and esoteric mysticism. But the actual term “twin flame” started popping up more in New Age spirituality around the late 20th century—though it gained major popularity thanks to YouTube, TikTok, and the spiritual girlies doing deep dives during their Saturn Return.
According to a Greek myth, humans were once androgynous beings with two faces, four arms, four legs—a whole celestial unit. But the gods got jealous and split them in half. Since then, we’ve been walking this Earth, searching for our other half.
In modern spiritual language, this became what we call the twin flame—one soul split into two bodies. Not to complete you, but to mirror you. To wake you up. To shake the soul out of its slumber and say, “Hey, remember who you are?”
Unlike soulmates (who feel like warm tea and fuzzy socks), twin flames often come in like hurricanes. Why? Because their job isn’t comfort. It’s transformation.
Let’s go through the main characteristics of the journey, how you can recognise it and that way, understand what you’re going through.
Signs and synchronicities: you start to notice certain things around you, out of nowhere. Repeating numbers, so called angel numbers (like 222, 555, 313, 11:11), everywhere you go and look. License plates, the time on your watch or phone, on your screen while watching TV. It’s like these random number follow you everywhere. But what they actually mean is, that you’re on the right path. You notice these signs, because you’re awake now. You see now. Synchronicities appear when you think of something, a word, or a song, and next thing you notice is that you can see that word, or hear that song in a random grocery store. It’s that unexpected moment when your thoughts and your outer world appear to align like magic. But the magic is you, and your thoughts, because you create your own reality.
And these little moments are unescapable. You start to see your person’s name everywhere, their birthdate, their zodiac sign, hear their favourite songs everywhere, see people who look like them. It is simply unescapable and unavoidable. You feel targeted, because you are actually bombarded by the universe with reminders of them. Again, for a reason. But the frustration is real. I know…
But the biggest sign is? You stumble upon the term “twin flame”. Maybe one time only, or maybe over and over, and you think to yourself, “Is that it? Is this for a reason?” Yes, it probably is. Because if you happen to learn about this term, you have probably passed the initial stages of the journey, and have been activated by your twin. (I know, sounds crazy, again, I’m with you, don’t worry).
There are certain stages we go through on this journey, and it can look slightly different to everyone, but in general, we all go through:
- The meeting (this person is… like me. In another body. They feel like home and omg…)
2. The activation (it’s more like an identity crisis, one of the twins awaken and cue the…)
3. The obsession (you fall in love and the whole world seems to disappear like only they exist until…)
3. The first fallouts (it’s too intense, so it can’t last, can it? And why are they suddenly turning my biggest insecurities against me?...)
4. The push-pull dynamic (twins dance around each other, when one pulls away, the other follows, back and forth, until…)
5. Separation ( that dance can’t continue forever. One of them gets tired of it and leaves out of fear and the other…)
6. Surrender (acceptance, of love, of the journey, of everything. Ending the endless dance and turning inwards meaning…)
7. Inner union (realising we are one and whole by ourselves. The real endgame. Peace with ourselves….)
8. Union(can happen, if the outer world aligns with the inner world. But in many cases it doesn’t happen.)
This is just a general map of what happens on this journey, and again, it’s different for every couple, some skip stages, some circle back over and over, some take years in one dynamic, some get into union within months. In average a journey like this takes 3-4 years, but again, this is a very general idea.
So what makes this twin flame journey so special? You may ask…
It awakens you. Not the journey, that person you meet. Because that person is your perfect mirror. You other half. You meet them, and they feel like home, like they are you in another body. You have the same interests, same core personality traits, same ideas, and you literally finish each other’s sentences. It’s something you have never experienced before, and because of that, you suddenly think… what is this? Who is this person and why does it feel like I’ve known them forever, and want to be with them forever? Because you do know them. From before the world even existed, apparently. But most importantly, because they are the other half of your soul. They are you.
So you meet your person, and don’t ever want to leave them ever again. But because they are you, in every sense of the way, they mirror all your best AND worst traits. Suddenly, you see yourself like you’ve never seen before, and it’s terrifying and eye-opening and awakening. Because that’s what happens to you: you awaken. Your soul comes to life and now you see your true self for the first time in your life, and it’s horrible. But also beautiful. So, this is where you are now. You have awakened, and now you don’t know what to do or which way to go.
And how do you know you are on an actual twin flame journey? You just know. (I know, feel free to throw a chair at me, I can feel your frustration through the screen). But trust me, I’ve been there too. It’s a deep, gut-deep, soul-deep inner knowing that this person you have met… they are different. They mean something to you, on a different level than anyone ever has. They walked into your comfortable, but not-so-comfortable life and shook it up at the core. Things start to change around you, but mostly inside you. You start to see the world in a different way. You start to feel pain like you have never felt before. You start to question everything you see and hear, but mostly, you start to question your own sanity. And suddenly you realise, you have woken up. You are going through a spiritual awakening, because the world that you have lived in until this point no longer fits in any way.
You start to awaken to the truth around you and inside you. All the while falling… in despair and in love with that person. In despair, because your old life, your old skin, does not fit you any longer. You’re growing and changing day-by-day, lesson by lesson. But it feels more like death, because your ego is shedding, the old you is getting left behind in smouldering ashes. You awaken, and you transform, and it’s beautiful, and scary, and so necessary. Because you chose this… this path, this life, that person.
And now here you are, falling and rising, and becoming. This is just the beginning.